Success is everybody’s dream. But what is the key to success? How can you be successful? In my post about defining successful people, I wrote that we should measure success based on how much we give rather than how much we receive. Fortunately, it also works nicely the other way around since those who give more almost always will also receive more.
Based on that, you can see that the more value you give to others, the more successful you will be. So how do you pave your way to success? How do you become more successful? The answer is amazingly simple. Here it is:
The key to success is making yourself as useful as possible to others.
That’s it. Making yourself as useful as possible to others.
If you focus on applying this, others will realize the value they get from you and they will attract more people to come to you. These new people will also realize the value they get from you and they will attract even more people to come to you. The virtuous cycle begins and you are now on your way to success.
With this principle in mind, you should aim at increasing your usefulness to others. How do you do that? Here are some ideas:
Be observant of needs
To be useful to others, you should always be aware of even the slightest clues of needs. The more sensitive you are to the needs of others, the more appreciative people will eventually become. The best scenario is being able to anticipate a need before the other people are even aware of it.
Find solutions to the needs
Now that you are aware of needs, the next step is finding solutions to them. The solutions you offer should be as useful as possible. To be able to do so, there is no other way but to continuously build your own value. It is from the value you have that you could give value to others.
Be proactive to help
Do not wait for the other person to ask for your help. Be proactive. Give your help even before they ask.
Be sincere
What matters is not only the solution you offer, but also the way you deliver it. Being sincere means being glad to help others without expecting anything in return. Make it your joy to give something to others. People can somehow distinguish whether or not you are sincere.
Go the extra mile
Doing the above four steps is good, but add this one if you can: give more than expected. First, give what is expected, and then add a little more. If you do the above four steps people will be appreciative, but if you add this one step they will be impressed.
Positive thinking brings inner peace, success, improved relationships, better health, happiness and satisfaction. It also helps the daily affairs of life move more smoothly, and makes life look bright and promising.
Positive thinking is contagious. People around you pick your mental moods and are affected accordingly. Think about happiness, good health and success, and you will cause people to like you and desire to help you, because they enjoy the vibrations that a positive mind emits.
In order to make positive thinking yield results, you need to develop a positive attitude toward life, expect a successful outcome of whatever you do, but also take any necessary actions to ensure your success.
Effective positive thinking that brings results is much more than just repeating a few positive words, or telling yourself that everything is going to be all right. It has to be your predominant mental attitude. It is not enough to think positively for a few moments, and then letting fears and lack of belief enter your mind. Some effort and inner work are necessary.
Are you willing to make a real inner change?
Are you willing to change the way you think?
Are you willing to develop a mental power that can positively affect you, your environment and the people around you?
Here are a few actions and tips to help you develop the power of positive thinking:
Always use only positive words while thinking and while talking. Use words such as, 'I can', 'I am able', 'it is possible', 'it can be done', etc.
Allow into your awareness only feelings of happiness, strength and success.
Try to disregard and ignore negative thoughts. Refuse to think such thoughts, and substitute them with constructive happy thoughts.
In your conversation use words that evoke feelings and mental images of strength, happiness and success.
Before starting with any plan or action, visualize clearly in your mind its successful outcome. If you visualize with concentration and faith, you will be amazed at the results.
Read at least one page of inspiring book every day.
Watch movies that make you feel happy.
Minimize the time you listen to the news and read the papers.
Associate yourself with people who think positively.
Always sit and walk with your back straight. This will strengthen your confidence and inner strength.
Walk, swim or engage in some other physical activity. This helps to develop a more positive attitude.
Think positive and expect only favorable results and situations, even if your current circumstances are not as you wish them to be. In time, your mental attitude will affect your life and circumstances and change them accordingly.
Positive thinking is a mental attitude that sees the bright side of life.
Positive thinking is a mental attitude and state of mind, which focuses on the full half of the glass and not on the empty half.
It is a mental attitude that expects positive results.
People with a positive frame of mind think about possibilities, growth, expansion and success. They expect happiness, health, love and good relationships. They think in terms of 'I can', 'I am able', and 'I will succeed'.
Positive thinking people are not daunted by failures and obstacles. If things don't turn out well or as expected, they will try again.
True positive thinking is not just saying that everything will be okay, as a lip service, and at the same time think about failure. In order to bring beneficial changes and improvement into your life, positive thinking has to become your predominant mental attitude throughout the day. It has to turn into a way of life.
Real and effective positive thinking requires that you focus on positive thoughts and positive emotions, and also take positive action.
How can you develop this state of mind? You can do so by reading inspiring and motivating literature, and through visualization, affirmations and meditation. Explore this website and you will find many articles, information and guidance about these subjects.
Here are several tips on how to think positively:
Display a more positive emotional and mental attitude toward yourself, other people and situations.
Refuse to participate in negative inner dialogues. It's just a waste of time and energy.
Don't allow disappointments, difficulties and obstacles affect your moods and state of mind.
Refuse and reject negative thinking. Either replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts, or engage yourself in some activity that will divert your attention from the negative thoughts.
Don't allow what people think and say affect your mind and mood.
Associate with people who bring something of value into your life. Avoid people who sap your energy and enthusiasm. If you can't avoid them, learn how stay detached when your are in their company.
Say positive things about yourself and about other people.
Compliment people when you feel they deserve it.
Have faith in yourself and in your abilities.
Try doing new things or old things in a new way. Doing things differently will help you be more creative and therefore more positive. Go to a different restaurant, eat different food, change the way you dress, start reading a new book or find a new hobby.
Read about people who overcame hardships and succeeded in life. This will help you think more positively.
Set goals no matter how impossible this might seem at the moment and keep yourself busy working on them.
Each goal accomplished, no matter how small it might be, will bring you more confidence, self-esteem and positive thinking.
At least once a day, think and try to come up with more ideas on how to think positively in various situations.
Be careful what mental images you let in into your mind. How you see yourself and your surroundings make a difference to your thinking. It is like watching a video. Eject the old video cassette or CD and insert a new and better one instead.
Analyze your behavior and attitude, and ask yourself why you are repeating the habits or attitudes that you dislike. There is no need to follow old patterns of behavior that you don't like or don't make you any good.
When you learn how to think positively, you gain the key to changing and improving your life.
It is easier to keep a positive frame of mind when things go well. It is tougher to do so when in the midst of problems, difficulties or obstacles. In such times you will need more effort, attention and patience. If you learn how to think positively when not under pressure, stress or strain, it will be easier to do so when things are tough.
What are positive feelings?
These are pleasant feelings of happiness, satisfaction, confidence and the expectation of success. These are feelings of compassion, love, tolerance and understanding.
Why do you need positive feelings?
They make you feel good, energetic, happy and able and willing to take action to pursue what you want to attain and achieve. They also make your life happier and easier, make you more likeable and improve your relationships.
How can you create positive feelings?
Below you will find a few tips and suggestions to help you create positive feelings.
Become aware of the importance of positive feelings and how they can improve your life.
Refuse to be involved with negative thoughts and feelings.
Upon waking up in the morning, smile and say to yourself silently or audibly: "I am going to have a wonderful day today. It is going to be a happy and successful day. I am going to stay patient and positive in every situation."
Often, during the day, visualize for a few moments some happy moments and situations from your life, a place you enjoyed visiting, or being with people you love.
When things make you angry, wait a few seconds before reacting.
When you feel some despair, anger, unhappiness or frustration, don't succumb to these feelings and let them grow. Visualize something happy, read something that makes you happy, repeat a positive affirmation or just try to create some happy feeling inside you. This might not be easy, as the negative feeling might be too strong, yet, do your best, and no matter how many times you might fail evoking a positive feeling, if you persist you will be able to change your attitude and feelings.
Understand that you cannot always control the situations in your life, but you can control and change your attitude and reactions. Negative attitude and anger will bring negative conditions, and positive attitude and positive feelings will make the situation improve.
Try to show some positive feelings toward people that you don't like. You don't need to be their friend, but you can stop being negative, and allow some feelings of warmth and understanding. You might be surprised at their attitude and reaction toward you.
Read some inspiring quotes every day.
Repeat affirmations such as:
"I am feeling happy and confident."
"It is so pleasant to enjoy positive feelings."
"I am getting happier and more positive every day."
Keep away from negative people, and if you must be with them or work with them, don't let their state of mind affect you. Try to be somewhat detached toward them. Fill your mind with positive feelings and thoughts, so that there will no place for their negativity in your mind.
When you are feeling down, listen to music.
Let yourself smile more often, even in difficult situations. The act of smiling tend to clear the mind of worries, even if temporarily, and wins you the sympathy and support of the people around you.
Watch comedies and read and watch happy news.
Find time for meditation. Among its may benefits is the ability to filter the feelings and thoughts that enter your mind. It will help you avoid negative feelings and allow in positive feelings.
After getting into bed at night, tell yourself silently or audibly: "I am going to have a wonderful day tomorrow. It is going to be a happy and successful day. I am going to stay patient and positive in every situation."
Now that you know how to create positive feelings, you can get creative and find more ideas to create positive feelings in your life.
It is a well-known fact that when the state of economy is good, one has a satisfying and well paying steady job, one feels good and tends to be happier and more relaxed.
On the other hand, when the state of the economy looks bleak and unpromising, and one is jobless and lacks money, there is a tendency to think and feel negative about everything. There is no happiness and no inner peace.
Examine people’s attitude toward anything, and you will discover that is very much affected by circumstances and situations. It is so easy to accept negative thoughts in harsh circumstances and see everything crumbling down.
If your life now is not what you want it to be, and you constantly think how bad the situation is, you keep hammering these thoughts into your subconscious mind. This makes you believe that there is no way out. Your inability to stop thinking and focusing on your current situation makes it look worse than it really is, stifles creativity and initiative, draws negative thinking and self pity, and increases the chances of making reality much worse.
Being negative, crying over what you have lost and expecting lack and difficulties will not make things better.
The secret of change and improvement is a change of attitude!
Your positive attitude can change your financial condition, in spite of national or global economic conditions.
Acquiring a positive attitude is most important, even if it might not be so easy when your job is at risk, or when don’t have a job. You have to act as the gatekeeper of your mind and refuse entrance to thoughts about self-pity, failure and lack, and let in only thoughts about success and growth.
You might say that it is like cheating yourself, but it looks this way only in the beginning. Before long, your subconscious mind will accept the new reality you are creating in your mind, and will work overtime to make it be true, if only you let it, and don’t revert to negative and pessimistic thinking.
Here are a few tips to change your attitude when the economic condition is tough:
Stay away from people who keep complaining.
Don’t listen to the whiners and complainers and don’t get involved in their theories. Just because they are negative or failing does not mean you will too.
Stay away from negative people, and don’t let them suck your energy or distract you from your goals.
Cut on the time reading the papers and watching or listening to the news.
Surround yourself with positive people, who expect success.
Read books about people who achieved success and accomplished their goals.
Focus on your life as you would like them to be, and not as they are now.
Focus on what you want, and get busy working on making it come true.
Affirm the life you want.
Refuse to allow into your mind mental images of hard times and of the life you don’t really want. Focus on mental images and scenes of what you want to happen.
It is ok to daydream, but do so with a positive attitude, and be practical and willing to take action to make your daydream come true.
Be positive, but be also practical, keep an open mind, take action and do things.
Remember, even in the direst of economic and financial conditions there is a way out and up. There are people who fell really hard and deep down, and yet, got up on their feet and climbed again. You can do so too. This might require some effort and time on your part. Why invest your time and energy in thoughts and attitude that will only hurt you, when you can direct the same energy and time to ways that will benefit you?
There are many books on the market that can help you gain a positive attitude and teach you how to improve your life. Take the initiative and search them and you will find them.
Check the following books and programs:
Visualize and Achieve
Affirmations Words of Power
Sculptor3
The Power of Positive Habits
Don’t let the state of the economy affect your life attitude and moods. Your attitude can change the state of economy for you, if you are willing to work on your mind and on your attitude, and focus on what you want to achieve and have, and not on what you lack or don’t want.
Based on that, you can see that the more value you give to others, the more successful you will be. So how do you pave your way to success? How do you become more successful? The answer is amazingly simple. Here it is:
The key to success is making yourself as useful as possible to others.
That’s it. Making yourself as useful as possible to others.
If you focus on applying this, others will realize the value they get from you and they will attract more people to come to you. These new people will also realize the value they get from you and they will attract even more people to come to you. The virtuous cycle begins and you are now on your way to success.
With this principle in mind, you should aim at increasing your usefulness to others. How do you do that? Here are some ideas:
Be observant of needs
To be useful to others, you should always be aware of even the slightest clues of needs. The more sensitive you are to the needs of others, the more appreciative people will eventually become. The best scenario is being able to anticipate a need before the other people are even aware of it.
Find solutions to the needs
Now that you are aware of needs, the next step is finding solutions to them. The solutions you offer should be as useful as possible. To be able to do so, there is no other way but to continuously build your own value. It is from the value you have that you could give value to others.
Be proactive to help
Do not wait for the other person to ask for your help. Be proactive. Give your help even before they ask.
Be sincere
What matters is not only the solution you offer, but also the way you deliver it. Being sincere means being glad to help others without expecting anything in return. Make it your joy to give something to others. People can somehow distinguish whether or not you are sincere.
Go the extra mile
Doing the above four steps is good, but add this one if you can: give more than expected. First, give what is expected, and then add a little more. If you do the above four steps people will be appreciative, but if you add this one step they will be impressed.
Positive thinking brings inner peace, success, improved relationships, better health, happiness and satisfaction. It also helps the daily affairs of life move more smoothly, and makes life look bright and promising.
Positive thinking is contagious. People around you pick your mental moods and are affected accordingly. Think about happiness, good health and success, and you will cause people to like you and desire to help you, because they enjoy the vibrations that a positive mind emits.
In order to make positive thinking yield results, you need to develop a positive attitude toward life, expect a successful outcome of whatever you do, but also take any necessary actions to ensure your success.
Effective positive thinking that brings results is much more than just repeating a few positive words, or telling yourself that everything is going to be all right. It has to be your predominant mental attitude. It is not enough to think positively for a few moments, and then letting fears and lack of belief enter your mind. Some effort and inner work are necessary.
Are you willing to make a real inner change?
Are you willing to change the way you think?
Are you willing to develop a mental power that can positively affect you, your environment and the people around you?
Here are a few actions and tips to help you develop the power of positive thinking:
Always use only positive words while thinking and while talking. Use words such as, 'I can', 'I am able', 'it is possible', 'it can be done', etc.
Allow into your awareness only feelings of happiness, strength and success.
Try to disregard and ignore negative thoughts. Refuse to think such thoughts, and substitute them with constructive happy thoughts.
In your conversation use words that evoke feelings and mental images of strength, happiness and success.
Before starting with any plan or action, visualize clearly in your mind its successful outcome. If you visualize with concentration and faith, you will be amazed at the results.
Read at least one page of inspiring book every day.
Watch movies that make you feel happy.
Minimize the time you listen to the news and read the papers.
Associate yourself with people who think positively.
Always sit and walk with your back straight. This will strengthen your confidence and inner strength.
Walk, swim or engage in some other physical activity. This helps to develop a more positive attitude.
Think positive and expect only favorable results and situations, even if your current circumstances are not as you wish them to be. In time, your mental attitude will affect your life and circumstances and change them accordingly.
Positive thinking is a mental attitude that sees the bright side of life.
Positive thinking is a mental attitude and state of mind, which focuses on the full half of the glass and not on the empty half.
It is a mental attitude that expects positive results.
People with a positive frame of mind think about possibilities, growth, expansion and success. They expect happiness, health, love and good relationships. They think in terms of 'I can', 'I am able', and 'I will succeed'.
Positive thinking people are not daunted by failures and obstacles. If things don't turn out well or as expected, they will try again.
True positive thinking is not just saying that everything will be okay, as a lip service, and at the same time think about failure. In order to bring beneficial changes and improvement into your life, positive thinking has to become your predominant mental attitude throughout the day. It has to turn into a way of life.
Real and effective positive thinking requires that you focus on positive thoughts and positive emotions, and also take positive action.
How can you develop this state of mind? You can do so by reading inspiring and motivating literature, and through visualization, affirmations and meditation. Explore this website and you will find many articles, information and guidance about these subjects.
Here are several tips on how to think positively:
Display a more positive emotional and mental attitude toward yourself, other people and situations.
Refuse to participate in negative inner dialogues. It's just a waste of time and energy.
Don't allow disappointments, difficulties and obstacles affect your moods and state of mind.
Refuse and reject negative thinking. Either replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts, or engage yourself in some activity that will divert your attention from the negative thoughts.
Don't allow what people think and say affect your mind and mood.
Associate with people who bring something of value into your life. Avoid people who sap your energy and enthusiasm. If you can't avoid them, learn how stay detached when your are in their company.
Say positive things about yourself and about other people.
Compliment people when you feel they deserve it.
Have faith in yourself and in your abilities.
Try doing new things or old things in a new way. Doing things differently will help you be more creative and therefore more positive. Go to a different restaurant, eat different food, change the way you dress, start reading a new book or find a new hobby.
Read about people who overcame hardships and succeeded in life. This will help you think more positively.
Set goals no matter how impossible this might seem at the moment and keep yourself busy working on them.
Each goal accomplished, no matter how small it might be, will bring you more confidence, self-esteem and positive thinking.
At least once a day, think and try to come up with more ideas on how to think positively in various situations.
Be careful what mental images you let in into your mind. How you see yourself and your surroundings make a difference to your thinking. It is like watching a video. Eject the old video cassette or CD and insert a new and better one instead.
Analyze your behavior and attitude, and ask yourself why you are repeating the habits or attitudes that you dislike. There is no need to follow old patterns of behavior that you don't like or don't make you any good.
When you learn how to think positively, you gain the key to changing and improving your life.
It is easier to keep a positive frame of mind when things go well. It is tougher to do so when in the midst of problems, difficulties or obstacles. In such times you will need more effort, attention and patience. If you learn how to think positively when not under pressure, stress or strain, it will be easier to do so when things are tough.
What are positive feelings?
These are pleasant feelings of happiness, satisfaction, confidence and the expectation of success. These are feelings of compassion, love, tolerance and understanding.
Why do you need positive feelings?
They make you feel good, energetic, happy and able and willing to take action to pursue what you want to attain and achieve. They also make your life happier and easier, make you more likeable and improve your relationships.
How can you create positive feelings?
Below you will find a few tips and suggestions to help you create positive feelings.
Become aware of the importance of positive feelings and how they can improve your life.
Refuse to be involved with negative thoughts and feelings.
Upon waking up in the morning, smile and say to yourself silently or audibly: "I am going to have a wonderful day today. It is going to be a happy and successful day. I am going to stay patient and positive in every situation."
Often, during the day, visualize for a few moments some happy moments and situations from your life, a place you enjoyed visiting, or being with people you love.
When things make you angry, wait a few seconds before reacting.
When you feel some despair, anger, unhappiness or frustration, don't succumb to these feelings and let them grow. Visualize something happy, read something that makes you happy, repeat a positive affirmation or just try to create some happy feeling inside you. This might not be easy, as the negative feeling might be too strong, yet, do your best, and no matter how many times you might fail evoking a positive feeling, if you persist you will be able to change your attitude and feelings.
Understand that you cannot always control the situations in your life, but you can control and change your attitude and reactions. Negative attitude and anger will bring negative conditions, and positive attitude and positive feelings will make the situation improve.
Try to show some positive feelings toward people that you don't like. You don't need to be their friend, but you can stop being negative, and allow some feelings of warmth and understanding. You might be surprised at their attitude and reaction toward you.
Read some inspiring quotes every day.
Repeat affirmations such as:
"I am feeling happy and confident."
"It is so pleasant to enjoy positive feelings."
"I am getting happier and more positive every day."
Keep away from negative people, and if you must be with them or work with them, don't let their state of mind affect you. Try to be somewhat detached toward them. Fill your mind with positive feelings and thoughts, so that there will no place for their negativity in your mind.
When you are feeling down, listen to music.
Let yourself smile more often, even in difficult situations. The act of smiling tend to clear the mind of worries, even if temporarily, and wins you the sympathy and support of the people around you.
Watch comedies and read and watch happy news.
Find time for meditation. Among its may benefits is the ability to filter the feelings and thoughts that enter your mind. It will help you avoid negative feelings and allow in positive feelings.
After getting into bed at night, tell yourself silently or audibly: "I am going to have a wonderful day tomorrow. It is going to be a happy and successful day. I am going to stay patient and positive in every situation."
Now that you know how to create positive feelings, you can get creative and find more ideas to create positive feelings in your life.
It is a well-known fact that when the state of economy is good, one has a satisfying and well paying steady job, one feels good and tends to be happier and more relaxed.
On the other hand, when the state of the economy looks bleak and unpromising, and one is jobless and lacks money, there is a tendency to think and feel negative about everything. There is no happiness and no inner peace.
Examine people’s attitude toward anything, and you will discover that is very much affected by circumstances and situations. It is so easy to accept negative thoughts in harsh circumstances and see everything crumbling down.
If your life now is not what you want it to be, and you constantly think how bad the situation is, you keep hammering these thoughts into your subconscious mind. This makes you believe that there is no way out. Your inability to stop thinking and focusing on your current situation makes it look worse than it really is, stifles creativity and initiative, draws negative thinking and self pity, and increases the chances of making reality much worse.
Being negative, crying over what you have lost and expecting lack and difficulties will not make things better.
The secret of change and improvement is a change of attitude!
Your positive attitude can change your financial condition, in spite of national or global economic conditions.
Acquiring a positive attitude is most important, even if it might not be so easy when your job is at risk, or when don’t have a job. You have to act as the gatekeeper of your mind and refuse entrance to thoughts about self-pity, failure and lack, and let in only thoughts about success and growth.
You might say that it is like cheating yourself, but it looks this way only in the beginning. Before long, your subconscious mind will accept the new reality you are creating in your mind, and will work overtime to make it be true, if only you let it, and don’t revert to negative and pessimistic thinking.
Here are a few tips to change your attitude when the economic condition is tough:
Stay away from people who keep complaining.
Don’t listen to the whiners and complainers and don’t get involved in their theories. Just because they are negative or failing does not mean you will too.
Stay away from negative people, and don’t let them suck your energy or distract you from your goals.
Cut on the time reading the papers and watching or listening to the news.
Surround yourself with positive people, who expect success.
Read books about people who achieved success and accomplished their goals.
Focus on your life as you would like them to be, and not as they are now.
Focus on what you want, and get busy working on making it come true.
Affirm the life you want.
Refuse to allow into your mind mental images of hard times and of the life you don’t really want. Focus on mental images and scenes of what you want to happen.
It is ok to daydream, but do so with a positive attitude, and be practical and willing to take action to make your daydream come true.
Be positive, but be also practical, keep an open mind, take action and do things.
Remember, even in the direst of economic and financial conditions there is a way out and up. There are people who fell really hard and deep down, and yet, got up on their feet and climbed again. You can do so too. This might require some effort and time on your part. Why invest your time and energy in thoughts and attitude that will only hurt you, when you can direct the same energy and time to ways that will benefit you?
There are many books on the market that can help you gain a positive attitude and teach you how to improve your life. Take the initiative and search them and you will find them.
Check the following books and programs:
Visualize and Achieve
Affirmations Words of Power
Sculptor3
The Power of Positive Habits
Don’t let the state of the economy affect your life attitude and moods. Your attitude can change the state of economy for you, if you are willing to work on your mind and on your attitude, and focus on what you want to achieve and have, and not on what you lack or don’t want.
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